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Romeo Barnes
I'm a 25 year old writer(Mostly poetry) and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu addict. I have published two books Emotions Volume 1: The Beginning of Turmoil and Emotions Volume 2: Better Days. I also run the blog which can be found here. The blog gives insight on both my Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and writing careers.  
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New Book Available

The book is done. Time to get back on the mats It’s my latest poetry collection. My World is an expression of love and relationships in all their forms. It speaks to my growth as both a writer and a person. You can purchase My World here:

Book time

I took six months away from the mat, only returning very recently in late April. That’s why blog posts have been even more sporadic than usual. Anyone who has followed this blog for any length of time knows what time away means. A new book is on the horizon.

The book is Secret Paradise. Here’s a preview(partial passage)
Note: This passage takes place after James, the main character goes back to the gym he’s been training at since childhood after some time away.

“How are you James?” I haven’t seen you in about six months.“ Master Johnson said. “I’m sorry about that Master, I’ve been doing well though.” I said. “Don’t apologize, it’s fine.” He said. “Who’s this?” Master Johnson asked, nodding toward Jose. I looked at Rob to see how I should respond. He gave me a nod of approval. “This is my partner Jose.” I said. “Oh hello.” Master Johnson said offering his hand to Jose for a handshake. “Hello sir.” Jose said timidly as he accepted the handshake. “Now that that’s out of the way, I asked…


There's a line I get a lot that I actually hate. "You're an inspiration." People say it all the time without realizing that it's for that exact reason among others that it means absolutely nothing. It may seem like a compliment but you're really saying when you say that is one of two things.

1) You've given me an idea or 2) I felt sorry for you, but now I don't because you made feel guilty about complaining and being lazy.

Now for the purposes of this post we're going to use and focus on the second use of the word that I listed above. Now to all the able-bodied community I ask you, if after having a conversation with someone they said to you, "Before talking to you I felt sorry for you, but now I don't because made me feel guilty about complaining and being lazy." Does that sound like a compliment? Now is this your fault? Not so much, it's the fault of the media moreso than anything else. After all, it's the media who toss th…

Competition vs Coaching and "The Zone"

I've said before coaching makes you a better competitor because having to break things forces you to understand how and why they work, but it goes much deeper that. Competition requires you get into a zone. A zone of hyper-focus where everything is in slow-motion and thinking is not required there is no nervousness, there isn't even logic there's only action. This is why if you ask any athlete what happened during "X" or "X" play they'll either reply "I don't know" or "I have to watch the tape." This is also why when people ask if I ever get nervous my reply is, "No. When I compete, I'm going to work." Training is fun, competition is business and that will never change and in business the zone is a prerequisite. If you can't reach the zone, go home. Coaching requires not only the ability to make things easier to understand, but the ability to motivate and lead; the ability to make people believe in you, so t…


Box-Get inside the box and you win.
Sandwich-Our forearms are blades with them we slice bread
Flying vs Praying-Simple elbows in vs elbows out

Simple concepts I use when teaching. I find teaching moves is a waste of time if the student doesn't understand why work.


What you see above is my medal wall. Looking at it reminds me of questions I was asked when I helped to plan the first GrapplersHeart tournament. The question was "Should we give out participation medals? The obvious answer to that is no and I've went into detail on that in other posts, so I won't do that here. However, that does bring me to the subject of this post and that is, "What do medals really mean?"

Well, that depends heavily on who you talk to. Keenan Corneilus says he just tossed them all under his bed after a while. I agree wholeheartedly with that sentiment as medals medals only represent how good you were on that day. I firmly believe as a competitor you're only as good as your last fight. The only thing on that wall that will forever hold meaning is the certificate itself. Why? Because that doesn't represent just one day or one weekend, over a decade of work went into that. Switching schools, injuries, helping keep a school afloat, being…